Healthy Love, Healthy Life

At the end of this article Jason and I offer three principles that are key for maintaining amazing relationships. But it’s not just about your relationship. In our workshops and in my alternative medicine practice, we’ve seen firsthand the close connection between the quality of people’s intimate relationships, their emotional well being and a person’s mental and physical health. Resolving emotional obstacles created by relationship challenges is critical for living a healthy lifestyle.

First, a little background.

In the fall of 2009, Dr. David Simon, the Medical Director of the Chopra Centre for Wellbeing, and author of Free to Love Free to Heal, made the following comment on the research direction being undertaken by the United States Government’s National Centre for Complementary and Alternative Medicine (NCCAM):

“My experience is that many people seeking alternative healthcare approaches are struggling with unresolved emotional needs, which have been poorly addressed by both the conventional and alternative medical communities…We should refocus the efforts of NCCAM on the emotional-physical connection, seeking more effective ways to help people heal their bodies by healing their emotions.”

– Dr. David Simon, “Alternative Medicine Research Questioned”, The Noetic Post, (Fall/Winter 2009-10)

The emotional impact of problems in personal intimate relationships is powerful; and we know from research that the stress caused by these emotional upheavals can lead to mental and physical health challenges ranging from depression to heart disease.

Emotional dis-ease can be caused by other triggers than relationships, but…

Finances, career issues, and control over time are just a few common causes of stress and emotional upheaval. Problems in relationships, however, are inherently different from an emotional perspective. By definition, relationships are emotional. Most other causes of stress are not. Without emotion there is no relationship. Relationships between people are defined by the emotions they create – e.g., love, hate, anger, happiness, lust.

On the other hand, there is no inherent connection between emotions and stressors like finances or career progression. Although a variety of emotions can accompany outcomes in these areas, those emotions are not necessarily part of the package. How do we know this? Because, for example, you can separate finances and your emotions. Financial experts will tell you to not become attached to any particular outcome in your investments. Remain detached and objective. In other words, don’t let your emotions rule your financial decisions and results. It can be a challenge, but it’s possible.

Can you imagine, however, a relationship counselor offering similar advice? “Don’t become emotionally attached to your husband or to the outcome of your marriage.” It wouldn’t happen. Relationships and emotions cannot be separated. As your relationships go, so go your emotions; and, as Dr. Simon points out, as your emotions go so goes your health. Therefore, when we talk about healing the body by healing emotions an appropriate amount of attention must be given to healing relationships.

Principles You Can Use Today

The good news is that understanding a few simple principles of natural relating can both heal emotional distress from past and current relationships as well as cement fulfilling and satisfying relationships as a permanent part of your healthy lifestyle. Three of these principles are found in the following 2 simple sentences, which we include in almost every email we send:

“Now Go Appreciate a Man and Cherish a Woman. That’s All It Takes.”

Let’s look at these two sentences more closely:

1) “Appreciate a Man”

Women underestimate the impact they have on men. During a dinner party in 2008, Donna asked one of the guests what one thing she would like every man to know about women. She thought for a moment, then said, “I would like men to know just how powerful women are.” A few minutes later Donna asked a man a similar question, “What one thing would you like women to know about men?” He answered, “That men know women are powerful.”

As a woman, everything you say, how you say it and the look on your face when you say it impacts men powerfully. Nothing impacts a man for the good more than your approval and appreciation of what he does for you and your family. Here’s the formula, that when applied consistently, will produce magical results:

Thank him (include what you’re thanking him for) + How what he did made you feel = 1 Highly-Motivated Man

Your appreciation of him is the fuel that drives him at home, in the office and in your relationship. If he knows he’s winning with you he will move mountains.

2) “Cherish a Woman”

Men feel best when they are producing. It’s what they’re good at and what they enjoy most. That’s why many men wish – even pray – that providing a nice home, paying all the bills, springing for the occasional vacation and showering her with gifts is all it takes to make her happy. For men that stuff is easy. What women really want in relationship, however, is to be cherished, to receive quality attention from her guy. For men, entering this realm called “relationship” is not where they are at their best. It’s outside their natural domain.

What does quality attention look like? It’s asking her how her day was and really listening to what she says. It’s showing her she’s on your mind by hiding romantic notes in places where you know she’ll find them. It’s sending her a spontaneous email from the office telling her you love her. It’s looking her in the eyes when you talk to her. It’s hearing the big and little things she wants and getting them for her. It’s making love to her in a way that says she’s precious and the only woman for you.

3) “That’s All It Takes”

If your relationship seems like work – if it seems too complicated – you’re taking the hard route. Remembering to K.I.S.S. can help – Keep It Simple and Satisfying (and K.I.S.S. a lot!). And a simple way to a more satisfying relationship is to appreciate him and cherish her. During the “Divine Dance of the Sexes” Couples Weekend Workshop we look at these and many other principles of natural relating in much more detail. At a basic level, however, appreciating him and cherishing her is a powerful place to start.

Beauty Salon

Beauty Salon is a place to rewind, re-earth and connect to your soul. It provides a range of services like massage therapies, aromatherapies, foot care and facial treatments. Some of the details of the beauty salon specialties are:-

Massages – Using various techniques and aromatic oils, massages help the client to rejuvenate their mind, body and soul. Massage therapies helps in relieving from tension, stiffed joint pains and body aches.

Facial Treatments – Different types of facial treatments are available depending on the skin type. The facial massages energize the skin and remove the dead cells present underneath the skin.

Foot Care – Also known as pedicure is a process which involves cleaning, filing and cutting the foot nails along with softening the callosities.

Spa Treatments – Refreshing the body cells, separate types of spa treatments solace your body with a promising experience

Some salons also provide hair dressing services where you can make an appointment with your choice of a hairstylist and get good recommendations on the type of hair cuts after checking in the length and quality of the hair. Salons are also a place to buy your beauty products; some of the beauty product suppliers including Vita Derm, Dermastir, Vita Amazonia, Dermalogica, Decléor, products, MD Formulations, Jessica, Loreal, and Crystal Clear. They contract themselves with the beauty salons and in return they sell their product at the marked prices at a commission.

As the requirement of salons have been ever increasing and to print the bills, many beauty salons use computer operated billing system and also have an appointment book. Some of the distributors of salon softwares are Active Salon, Spa Vision & Salon Transcripts. To choose a perfect beauty salon, you must see whether they are offering a clean and healthy environment, convenience in providing all kinds of services and qualified professionals.

Healthy Eating And The Great Sugar Scandal

I live in England and first visited America in 1978; not long after cheap transatlantic flights became available for the first time.

Until that point the bulk of my knowledge of the USA came from Hollywood, or the myriad American televisions shows that came our way from early childhood. The TV shows, especially, supplied a kind of shared experience that some parts of the rest of the world have with Americans. In some respects I suppose we felt that we knew America.

When the opportunity came to finally go there I knew that once I was home again there would be lots of questions from family and friends. People would want to know what it was really like: What did I see? Where did I go? Who did I meet and so on? From the moment I arrived I was on the look-out for impressions to take back.

The odd thing was that initially there were none. Or rather there were impressions, but they were mainly that America was a lot like it was on TV. New York looked like New York, the people had American accents and they really did say ‘Have a nice day’.

I began to think that I was going to return to England without any anecdotes or news to swap over a pint in the pub. We will leave the best anecdotes for another day and concentrate instead on the two things that I noticed that never came across on TV – at least not back then.

Firstly, the highly formatted and slick television shows mainly showed attractive and wealthy people in salubrious surroundings. Yet in more than one city in America I found myself in ghetto areas; places you wouldn’t want to be. The poverty and squalor were obvious and back then I felt that it was somewhat under-reported.

The second revelation was the obesity problem. I had never before seen so many fat people in one place. In fact, that was my main takeaway from my whole American vacation,’ Hey everybody, you won’t believe how fat Americans are!’

That was 1978. Just a few years later, around 1984, my company sent me to Aarhus in Denmark, a sea port where the diet seemed to be centred around fish, particularly herring, as I recall.

On that occasion I wasn’t particularly anxious to go home and supply reports on the state of Denmark, but nevertheless, I was left with one overriding impression of my visit: the Danes were very slim compared to the British.

It was then that I put two and two together and realised that we (the Brits) were trailing along on American coattails, yet again. We were definitely becoming obese and the trend started a little while after it happened to America, sometime in the 1970s.

Since that time I have learned that the trigger was the usage of High Fructose Corn Syrup that began in America around 1970 and went on a strong upward curve thereafter, though dipping a little since 2000.

Aside from the hideous HFCS, food manufacturers have for a long time been adding sugar to absolutely everything that comes in a can or a packet. Check the labels of just about anything -even weight loss foods – and you will see that sugar is added. Given that Western society is hopelessly reliant on convenience foods this pretty much amounts poisoning the population.

Reuters recently reported that health related issues are costing America around $200 billion per year and researchers at Lehigh University in Pennsylvania say that obese men will generate around $1,500 medical costs per person per year and overweight women with cost double that amount.

In the 1960s around 13% of the American adult population were obese; today it’s over 35%.

Just how much sugar are Americans loading up with? From all sources it’s around 45 tsp per day per person, or around 152 lbs of sugar per year. That’s about 150 lb more than an early America settler would have consumed.

Clearly, this amounts to a major international scandal. Sugar is tasty and addictive. The food manufacturers well understand the problem that they have created, but left to their own devices they will do nothing about it.

Although some government officials in various countries may whinge and whine on the matter from the margins, there is nothing very positive or constructive being done anywhere.

For the time being if you want to live as healthily as possible, for as long as possible, you will have to take responsibility for your own health and your family’s, otherwise at some point in your lives there will in all probability be consequences.

Issues and Concerns on

Being beautiful is regarded with high market value. For this reason, not only the celebrities and media persons take extras care on their skin, everyone who wants to stand out among the crowd would do all the things to achieve self-esteem by having a flawless skin.

Although various skin care products are out in the market, still many individuals, including celebrities resort to the natural way of maintaining a distinctive appeal. Because of the study which revealed that many commercial beauty products contain harmful ingredients, the cosmetic s and skin care industry has opened its doors to the safer alternative skin care products.

Using is not futile, as some individuals may think. Contrary to other people’s assumption, continuous and habitual use of natural plant extracts can improve the skin’s health. In fact, the antioxidants that are used by manufacturers of skin care products are from plant extracts.

Ideally, natural beauty skin care items are screened and approved by the FDA before it comes out in the market. But because of the increasing demand, several manufacturers illegally distribute counterfeit products which are not approved by the FDA. As a result, some consumers of organic skin care products contend that the use of natural herbs is harmful.

The fact is, majority of the dermatologist recommend the use of skin treatments with organic ingredients because they are less irritating and seldom to produce side effects. Organic ingredients are safe to be introduced in a living cell such as the skin because it is not regarded by our immune defenses as foreign substances. Hence, better absorption of beneficial nutrients is highly attainable.

However, you should remember that consistency in using the product t is an important factor for its efficiency. Some natural beauty skin care product users say that organic ingredients are not effective, but this could be because of two reasons; first, because of short-term usage of the product. Typically, an organic skin treatment would bring significant and visible results in a matter of two months of habitual use. Secondly, expired product. Although natural ingredients are used as an ingredient, preservatives are still needed to keep those it active. However, some manufacturers fail to include the product expiration in the container. Hence, some will mistakenly think that it all natural skin treatments are defective.